It’s hard to believe it’s almost been 5 years since I first eliminated my first belief with the Lefkoe Method. A lot can happen in almost 5 years. And as many of us know too well, a lot can stay the same too.
I wanted to touch base here and relay how things have changed, and why I credit The Lefkoe Method, Natural Confidence program as well as Shelly Lefkoe’s personal coaching with much of my success. This blog as been my way to chronicle this journey from the start, so, I thought we should keep that going. 🙂
It’s funny because much of the time when we have a certain desire or outcome in mind and we don’t see any feasible way for it to take place we stop there and downgrade our desires. We look for incremental changes that aren’t far off from what we have now instead. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can make change and it can happen faster than we first imagine. We just have to approach the problem in the right way. We have to dig deep and grab the issues by their root.
One of our main objectives is to avoid pain and suffering and move towards pleasure or at least non-suffering. Additionally, a lot of the suffering we experience is brought on by ourselves, and more specifically, by our thoughts about things. Furthermore, our thoughts about things come from the explicit meaning we give to any situation and circumstance, person, place or thing in our lives and in our worlds. Continue reading “1 Tiny Fact That Can Change Your Perceptions Instantly”
Okay, so we all have been around for the past decade and half when positive psychology has reared its smiling face and has taught us there is more to study in the realm than disorder and dysfunction. It is a field in its infancy so there is a lot of room to grow and understand and there is tons of value there. There are also a lot of unknowns and misunderstandings. Continue reading “Three Surefire Ways to Crush Negative Thinking and Be Happier Immediately”
The heat can be unbearable. Especially if it’s combined with dry and windy conditions. It can make people moody, sick, allergy ridden, and overall lethargic. Since I am especially heat sensitive I decided to pass along some nice tips I’ve learned along the way. Of course I will start with the obvious basics because sometimes they are easy to forget.
#1. Drink plenty of water, but make sure to drink it throughout your day. You don’t want to drink up all at once and feel bloated. Feeling bloated and hot are a bad combination. Also, you can drink other things, but stay away from too much caffeine or alcoholic beverages. I know an iced latte or ice cold beer may sound nice on a hot day, but it’ll only make it worse.
#2. Cover them windows. If you don’t have central AC or even if you do, cover up windows that receive direct sunlight with heavy curtains, or you can improvise with a comforter. Yes, it can be that serious. It was so hot in the condo where I live yesterday that I felt the heat emanating from the walls.
The average American spends 25.4 minutes per way driving to and from work, that’s about 190 hours per year, accounting for vacation and holiday time. In areas like Southern California, that number goes up quite a bit. It can be seen as wasted time, the cost of working where you want to work and living where you want to live, or a scourge on your existence but I believe it can be so much more. This time is given to you as a little gift from the traffic Gods and you can do amazing things with it.
For the longest time I found myself trying to guess at what was written between the lines. I wanted to find out what people really meant or felt or wanted. I didn’t take what people said at face value. Communication was ambiguous and murky. Continue reading “Mind Games 101”
Doom and gloom is the tone of the day. We are on the brink of extinction, and have a better idea of the atrocities that happen every day – but is this the reality? Are we worse than we ever have been before? More violent, more deceitful, more uncaring? Continue reading “Does Humanity Really Suck?”
A lot of unhappiness and suffering stems from our misperception of the people and world around us. These perceptions tell us the story or stories that can limit us and cause flawed decision making or set us free. A lot of the misperceptions come from false beliefs about ourselves and how we relate to the world. Continue reading “Confirmation Bias – Your Achilles’ Heel?”
We’ve talked about limiting beliefs a couple of times on this blog, but we skipped over the nitty-gritty and talked about my experience with a belief elimination method, how I eliminated limiting beliefs and how it affected my life experience and results. (Here is the original post, and here is the two-year follow up.)
We haven’t discussed what a limiting belief is and how it manifests in your day-to-day life, showing up in the places that you are unhappiest. This can include your money situation, work situation, health situation, relationship situation and the relationship with yourself. It shows up in different places for different people based on their particular beliefs. It usually is much stronger is some areas.
What is a Belief?
A belief is something we hold to be true. Inherently, belief is the absence of doubt. We hold beliefs about everything and our beliefs inform our view of the world and our relationship to other people. Beliefs are also self-perpetuating.
We can easily say we live in a world where distractions are the norm. There seems to always be background noise outside and within ourselves. There are so many things competing for our attention, there are things to remember, things to do, deadlines, and then, you have to sustain yourself with food and water and some exercise if you are lucky.
Well, here I am going to give you 5 quick steps towards peace of mind you can take right now.
Are you living your best life? If your answer is an unequivocal yes, that is super awesome and you must write to me and to the folks reading this and share your formula (seriously). You may also know you are in a small minority of people. Most of us know we can be doing better than we are. This could mean a lot of different things to different people but overall it’s the same idea. We could be spending more time with family or friends, taking better care of our health, cultivating our passions, spending more time in service, or anything that we know would improve our quality of life, yet we forgo either taking steps towards it or implementing it into our day-to-day lives. Continue reading “Clarify What You Value Most and Get More of It”
Decision making fatigue is a real thing. The idea is that we have a limited amount of decision-making energy each day, and through the process of making decisions, this energy diminishes. Along with the energy, the quality of our decisions diminish as well. Have you ever been confronted with a simple question like, “What time do you want to have dinner?” and it’s a big ordeal to think of an answer? This is due to decision making fatigue. This is bad news bears for those of us who make life changing decisions each day. The thing is we are all making life changing decisions each day – whether we know it or not. Continue reading “Manage Decision Making Fatigue = Make Better Decisions Faster and Easier”
We are conditioned to believe that mistakes are inherently bad. This conditioning was created in childhood and reinforced throughout our lives. The origins are innocent enough – children are crazy little beasts and as a matter of course they make tons of mistakes. Parents try to manage the madness and want these beasts to stop making messes, hurting their siblings and ultimately just want them to remain safe.
The thing is that as new beings on the planet, children intuit that mistakes are how they learn and grow. Mistakes are how we begin to test our impact on the world and people around us. We measure physics and chemistry. As young toddling toddlers we experiment with gravity and the “first steps”. Continue reading “Good Mistakes vs. Bad Mistakes: Exploding Fallacies”